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Is Fear of Failure Your Demon?
Is Fear of Failure Your Demon
I sit there white knuckled, starring at that list of names and trying to get the courage to pick up that 1000 pound mouth piece beside my arm. All of a sudden I remember a task that needs to be done, so I beg off from calling my list and off I go into management mode again. I cannot seem to think outside of the box, my comfort zone. What keeps me inside the box? After a lot of analyzing … it comes down to this.
Fear of failure because of lack of confidence.
Am I going to mess up, what if they hang up on me, what if I forget what to say and fumble for words, what if they say yes, what do I do next, what if, what if, what if! What does fear do to us….it immobilizes us….no matter how brilliant our mind, fear of failure keeps us inside the box. All the knowledge, expertise, ability becomes frozen in a fear of failure mode. Inside the box we feel safe from fear of rejection. Therefore we are protected by our comfort zone where we feel oh so cuddly and safe from the outside world.
Do you remember when you were just a kid ? and it was so much fun picking up the phone and pretending to call someone, maybe grandma, anyone who would listen to us babble on for hours? As a teenager our parents could not get the phone away from us, it is like it was glued to our lip. What about today? You can hardly leave your house without bumping into people everywhere with a cell phone to their ear. People find it easy to talk to people they know, like and trust. But talking to strangers is a different kettle of f
ish.
So what do we need to do to become comfortable talking to people for the first time. What do we need to do to overcome our failure mode
?
Here is a list of things that might help you in your Networking:
Practice, Practice, Practice…write out a script of introduction…stand in front of a mirror with phone in hand and talk to yourself. If you are convinced that
you would listen to what you say to yourself, you can be confident that your contact will listen to you because you have piqued their attention.
Smile, smile, smile…when you have a smile on your face and a happy tone in your voice, it projects over the phone and you put your listener at ease.
Listen, Listen, Listen….when you ask him a question, wait for his answer and be genuine in your interest in him. By asking the right questions you can soon decide for yourself whether you have found a person you want to continue networking with.
No, No, No….Do not be afraid of rejection. You are searching for a yes. Not everyone is going to say Yes. So when they say No they have just saved you time and energy in looking for your yes. Keep searching for the Yes!
I remember years ago I lost my wedding rings. I was horrified. I had been gardening and they slipped off my finger. I picked up the garden spade and started sifting through the soil. It was very sunny and my eyes kept focusing on something shiny. Little pieces of glass sparkled up at me and small stones twinkled in the soil. Each time I thought I had found my rings and was disappointed I had found only a piece of glass or a stone. But I did not give up. After several hours of looking I found my diamond rings. I was ecstatic. That is how I feel when I find Mr. Yes… on the telephone. Keep searching never give up! Each time you pick up the phone you are sifting for Mr. Yes. Remember you can never say the wrong thing to the right person. Be natural, be genuine in showing interest in your prospect, be yourself and you will come out a winner.
Joan Maxymuik
Founding Member, Trainer
OrganoGold International Healthy Coffee Business
Contact Info: jmaxymuik@cogeco.ca
Phone (519) 730-0738
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